November is (among other things) National Adoption Month.
I have lots of thoughts on adoption, which means I could probably write way more than a whole month’s worth of posts on the subject. Maybe someday I will. But for now, I just have a question. It’s a question I’ve been wanting to ask for a long time, but one that I’m a little scared to ask any particular person, so I’m just going to throw it out there and hope that someone somewhere will be willing to share with me some honest thoughts.
Is it insensitive to ask a couple struggling with infertility what they think about adoption?
I don’t intend it as a judgmental question at all; I’m just curious as to what their thoughts on it are. But I’m scared to ask, just in case it doesn’t come across right. Plus, I realize that there are many very offensive things to say to someone who desperately wants to have children and can’t (I definitely know better than to bring some of them up. I mean, who says ‘Are you sure you’re, you know, doing it right?’ to someone they know is dealing with infertility? Who says it at all?). I want to be sensitive to the heartache that struggle can be.
But every single time I hear about someone who either 1) doesn’t have the child (or multiple children) they wanted because of infertility or 2) is shelling out mega money on fertility treatments, I can’t help but thinking about the adoption option (of course, I think it’s an option that people not struggling with infertility should consider, too. Just saying).
After all, where would we be if God hadn’t adopted us?